I have come to understand that waiting is one of the most important things we can do, once we have taken the steps we have been guided to take.
I used to be so impatient (I still can be) about wanting things to happen when I want it, how I want it and the way I want it. When I had my son a year and a half ago, I was introduced first hand to the dance of waiting and just how joyous everything can be when we just allow it to happen the way it wants to happen.
I remember the morning of when I eventually went into labor. I had talked it over with my midwife that I would take castor oil so as to speed things along. She had gently tried to dissuade me, but ultimately respected my call. The morning when I was about to take the castor oil, I checked my email (at 3am, now I know why) and got a note from her about how she was called to an emergency birth and it would be great if I did not take the castor oil. I went back to bed thinking, “If I ever needed a sign…”. So, I did not take the castor oil and the entire birthing process was spared by my desire to move things.
Everything happened perfectly with the natural rhythms of the childbirth and we got to welcome our son at 6:06am morning of November 22. I was told afterwards of the potential issues taking castor oil may have caused.
I think the art of waiting applies to most aspects of our lives.
When I work with people who want to lose weight, I always explain how the body has its priorities and weight loss is not its number one priority. The body is more geared to address critical life-threatening issues and digestive health before addressing weight metabolism. As such, I have seen many people whose digestive health significantly improves before weight starts to drop. And my role in that process is to help them understand they are still doing everything right by their body and to not stress about when the weight does not come off right away. It’s a matter of time, but it’s important to respect where the body is at and the imbalances it’s trying to address.
I have found a similar thing with the spiritual process. I have been on the path for 5 years, kicked into higher gear starting 2 years back when I started working with a spiritual teacher. Like everyone, I like seeing the fruits of my efforts and feel like I am moving ahead.
But recently, it’s as if my latest spiritual lesson is one of patiently waiting. Well, it caused me a lot of anxiety because I did not really know what I was waiting for. But I felt the message for me was that I was getting ready to be birthed and that I was the womb for what was to emerge. So, for me, I was to take really good care of myself, delight in the company of friends and family, find joy and laughter in life’s many blessings and patiently wait for what needed to unfold when the time is right.
I am still waiting, but I have faith in the divine order of how things are working out. And it helps me to think back to the times in my life when I wanted something faster and a certain way and was so blessed that things did not turn out the way I wanted. The results far exceeded my expectations.
And I only need to be reminded how there is a wisdom and intelligence to how everything unfolds. We shouldn’t rush it, even if it may feel uncomfortable at that time. Because as long as we need the needful on our end, everything will unfold the way it’s meant to for our highest good.