I just came back from an amazing trip to Hong Kong (HK) visiting my family and friends. With family, I had not seen my parents and sister in 2 years. In terms of friends, I had not seen some for as long as 25 years! This trip was definitely one about touching my roots and reconnecting to all who played a part in helping Seema be who she is today. More importantly, it was about having fun, fun, fun! Since December 2006, when I was very depressed and started this personal journey, it has been exhilarating and exhausting. I was definitely ready to move past the pain, the lessons and let the newly-emerging Seema just rip out and have a good time!
The biggest message I got from this trip was to just live. I found that people in HK don’t seem to get too caught up in overthinking things or talking about their feelings; they just go about the requirements of life and take pleasure in food, shopping, company of family and friends, fun activities and doing things that make them feel good. From what I saw and the people I interacted with at least, there was no issue around being worthy to enjoy life. It probably doesn’t hurt that help in terms of housekeepers, babysitters, etc. are pretty affordable and almost every household has one. So, the conversation how someone can’t go out because they don’t have a sitter is rarely had.
When I was hanging out with friends whom I knew in high school, the energy of the group was as if we returned to that time. I was sixteen again. And that’s how I felt in the trip with different people – I was 12 again, 16 again, 25 again, etc. and only the fun times. Even though I had not seen some people for a long time, it’s as if we picked up where we left off. There were no guilt trips around how notoriously bad I was at keeping in touch, no expectations or pressures, just a true coming home.
And I laughed and laughed and laughed. I also ate whatever I wanted and did not gain a single pound. I went for all foods and tastes that were nostalgic for me and I ate it with love and a sense of belonging. In that vein and with the frame of mind I was in, it was fine. Now, I was staying with my parents and my Mom was making me a healthy green juice every morning (so proud that she is doing that for her body) and I was primarily eating nutrient-dense foods and staying joyful which ensured my immunity remained strong. In that joy and sense of wellbeing, I decided to just eat whatever I felt like eating from the tastes I remembered growing up with – I ate to get the taste, but did not over-indulge to the point of guilt and shame. I truly believe those emotions and stress around them cause a great deal of our health problems, sometimes more so than the actual foods we eat.
I was happy to meet up with Anita Moorjani, author of Dying to Be Me – a Hay House book for which Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote the Foreword. Her story is remarkable – she is a Sindhi (Indian) who speaks Cantonese and lives in HK (very similar background as mine). She developed end-stage cancer and was at the brink of death. She slipped into a coma and in that state, her consciousness expanded and she learned some very valuable lessons. She had what is commonly referred to as a Near Death Experience. She then chose to return to her body and her cancer disappeared in a short period of time. (I am of course grossly oversimplifying the plot.) I encourage you to check out her book or her website (www.anitamoorjani.com). But, the most important thing I learned from her book and in my interaction with her was again the importance of just living life and having fun, because the energy we put out is truly creating our reality and experience and she explains that in great detail in her book. And I don’t think this is meant to be interpreted in a hedonistic sense of partying all night all the time because arguably, the after-effects of that is not fun. But, if we really live life with meaning and gusto and let everything find its place, all will be well. It’s a very simple message, but one that can be hard to adopt on a consistent basis.
In my practice, I work with clients to access better overall health. This can be done via the physical realm or through the realm of releasing old hurts and spirituality awakening. In HK, people are very interested to hear what I had to say from a physical standpoint. I never felt the door open on emotions or spirituality. I think those things can be scary and intimidating for many. But the learning for me is whether you enter overall wellness from the physical or the spiritual, you get to where you need to at the end of the day.
The HK trip cemented for me that my foundational message on wellness is physical – foods you eat, thoughts you think, things you do – because that’s where the greatest need and acceptance lie. And that was my process as well. My entry point to wellness was in the foods I ate, thoughts I thought and actions I took. This then gave me strength to later on access the pain of my wounds and to release them which in turn gave me much greater understanding to why I did what I did and who I really was, on a spiritual level.
When someone is physically ailing or stressed out like so many of us are, talks of releasing deep pain or spiritual ascension can seem so far off and unattainable. The best approach may be to get people to a good and balanced sense of wellbeing and let everything else grow from that. And I try and do that by giving specific tools people can start doing right away.
The Hong Kong trip just gave me such clarity about everything. So, the message I now live by – just live, have fun and be practical. Eat right, think right, live right – be OK with all that comes up, good and bad and know if I just live life the best way I know how using some of the tools in my toolbox (which I share with others), all with be well.
As an aside, my Dad’s entry point to wellness was spirituality and not the physical which has served him well. And last year, at the tender age of 82, he decided to go gluten-free (through no particular urging from me) and is now feeling even better.
We all get to where we need to go if we just focus on living the life we have every moment, every day. And the best use of every moment is to consciously choose foods, thoughts and actions that enhance our next moment.